Noticing the POSITIVES!


“In our research program, we found that the daily repertoire of emotions of people who are highly resilient is remarkably different from those who are not,” says Barbara Fredrickson, PhD, the author of Positivity (Crown Archetype, 2009).

You can train your mind to notice the positives as well as the negatives in difficult and even painful situations. Resilience doesn’t mean being unrealistically happy all the time, it just means that even though you might be sad or anxious or angry, you can still see the lighter side or the funny side of things.

Resilient people Fredrickson says, “find a way to also see the good. They’ll say, ‘Well at least I didn’t have this other problem.’”

The question is how do I do that?

Make a special note to write somewhere every single day, three things that went well or made you laugh or you appreciated.

like this:


Alternatively, just remember to think about nice things that happened at the end of each day before bed.

Over time this will really make a difference.

Remember that no matter how bad a situation looks, there is always some silver lining, even if it is hidden.